please let me know which option you prefer
Sending The flight I was supposed to send this on is cancelled. yes, but your reaction to it doesnt necessarily reflect the reality of it. Maybe its regional? Thank you in advance is completely fine when Im being asked to do something that I actually can do. I then give background on my question. In a perfect world, I wouldnt need it. Its the reminders that I *still* cant seem to figure out and loathe doing. If I am sending our a reminder, I usually just type just following up on the message I sent to you last week about A, B, and C or i just wanted to see if you had a chance to look at that e-mail I had sent to you the other day I do agree that it is hard to find a way to remind someone about something when you are just not sure if they had forgotten or if they are just swamped and are dealing with higher priorities. Do something with it.. There are just so many styles and approacheswithout tone, its really not worth getting upset over. I can see why youd do that for some people, especially when youve already said something multiple times! Heeeeelllllloooooooo? I use please advise or let me know. I want the recipient to know I need a response and that it is not just an fyi. Unfortunately, if I dont use those phrases, I dont get an answer/response. I am not a fan of please advise either but it is pretty common and probably not meant to sound rude. By describing the problem and outlining the requested solution, the rest of your email is already telling me to do the needful. I like the sentiment; the phrase just seems so grammatically tortured that I wonder how and why its caught on. whether you prefer. I heard sleeps used all the time in the US I think its a weird phrase. of these changes. (I hate picking a closer the most (in email-writing), I think its related to aspergers-y symptoms but it could just be a social anxiety thing). The only times it does, its not because of the phrase, its because of the person using the phrase. Just no. I think Thoughts? is totally fine. Monday . I interpret it in one of the following ways: Write Your Letter Step-by-Step 1 Express your gratitude for the customer's business. I feel like its very similar to replying to an email and saying Message received or acknowledged. Yes, technically those are fine, but in the places Ive worked, it would be a very odd tone to take. Assuming this is really the only issue the OP has with her people shes their manager, she can tell them what to do. I think part of what gives it that differing connotation is who is essentially armed in the conversation. Good morning SARA! This is surprising to me that people are offended by please advise. I see it as completely neutral. This whole discussion is fascinating to me, because at my current job please advise is used a lot. Ive now defaulted to kind regards for every single email regardless of content. But not only would I be ok implying that Im telling my boss what to do, but I do that regularly. Over the past year you have been a valued customer. Or they are new and still learning the ropes? yeah I agree. *other English-speaking nations have their own usage or slang, [dont know where the rest of that sentence went]. I hate please advise. Trite business-speak. If the person who sends you emails with this is in is known for being demanding and bratty, then you have a problem, and it isnt that they say please advise in their emails. I had to Google it the first time someone said it to me, because I wasnt sure if it was supposed to be vaguely insulting or extremely polite. Thanks! I really hate sending those please submit your TPS report by noon, Friday e-mails, but its a part of my job (my least favorite part of my job). Fresh content for your texts, so you can be more professional. This happens quite frequently in my current job and its quite normal. Don't use the phrase, "Hope this helps" in an email. I require has a very different feel to me from I need I require implies that dang it, I need this and you better give it to me. But I agree that its ineffective, and that adults should know better than to shoot the messenger. I dont order them to call me. Yes, but plenty of people use it earnestly: as in, hmm, havent heard back hope they didnt forget but dont want to be a nag. Lots of possible transfers options for GW23. is not business-like as you said. So I explained the situation and stated quite plainly what I wanted her to do. The original model was created digitally in Nomad Sculpt . I would like to give some of that advice to the current staff that I manage. But saying recieved, or acknowledged seems cold and robotic and something like Got it! would work except that I dont want them to think Ive literally gotten the package. What date/time is most suitable/convenient for you? Ill ask for advice, input, and/or guidance, but never with that hated two-word statement. It just comes off as sort of short to me, especially when there are much nicer ways to say it. I always take the time to phrase my response as, I advise you to Actually, if any of my direct reports use it, I ask what they mean by it. Oooh, yeah. OMG yes please do the needful makes me stabby. Is it really a good use of their time to work on a solution that will likely be less effective and will end up being thrown away in favor of your solution anyway? And kind of hilarious. Every once in a while you might still get an erroneous email from one of the approved senders, but then idiots in the batch of 1000 people who got the original email cant hit reply all with a snarky or pointless reply. I cant remember. Attempt to manage you/assign tasks and they arent your manager? Friendly reminder is bad too. I dont say make sense? in emails but I do say it when explaining something to employees in person. Please let me know your thoughts is the only one I have left that appears to be a safe bet. I said yes, we do have a parking procedure. I try to leave the actual question for the end of the paragraph. At my old job, someone forgot and send wrong email to an internal listserv with about 1000 people, she realized the mistake in about 5 mins and quickly sent and apology email and a note to disregard. So I write all my emails in a formal, succinct manner. The third is forward yet subduednot a bad option, honestly. Want more FREE revisions? Well, it was one way we could make ourselves pay any kind of attention to her. Yeah, Ive messaged people to see if they were available for a phone call, but I would say, Can I call you? and make the call myself, instead of insisting they call me. It does seem a bit babyish, but I usually hear it used in an OMG I am so EXCITED about my upcoming fun event! way that is a bit more forgiving than if it was being used, say, to countdown to a work conference or something like that. Can I help anyone? versus Who was next? ", a real person to guide me, instead of some AI :)", The best feature of this service is that the text is edited by a human. Ill confess to using please advise in place of certain expletives. Instead, we head to a conference room for almost all phone calls. (I am a webmaster for many sites at my University, and a lot of times people from a department want me to do something to their site that is in conflict with ADA compliance/branding initiative/common sense, so if they dont take no for an answer when I explain why we cant do it that way, I bring in another person of influence, like my boss or someone in charge of university-level site compliance, or the persons own department chair, etc., and then explain the request, the problem with the request, and explain that Im trying to resolve the matter. I use it in much the same way, and Ive never been told to cut it out (directly or indirectly). }; And its also a way of warning others that people are jumping line and I am not happy about it. Want to hear the craziest email pet peeve? There are a handful of people at work who use this on every.single.email. I kinda think its a bit bitch eating crackers myself. I have the same problem. Words only mean things in their contexts, though. ! Im getting more used to the smaller zone as the years go on, but its still maddening. I use it most with people that are either above me or that I dont really know so Im erring on the side of reverential language. This is the sixth call this week that Ive had from someone selling architectural features. Please let me know how you would like to proceed. April 1, 2012. Privacy Policy and Affiliate Disclosures. Would you have done something different? In social settings the phrase fix a plate as in the wife should fix a plate for her husband at buffets makes me see red because it is so integral to subcultures where women are subservient. But I think I mean more did I explain that in a way that makes sense than are you smart enough to understand this. It is a shame April Fools Day has just been and gone, because you could have sent out a great email I am no longer going to be answering the question Can I ask you a question. Extra formatting can just come off as shouting. (I wont get into the aggravating colleague who copies the boss on EVERY (sorry for the shouty capitals) email exchange between us, which is another reason why my emails resemble business letters I look more professional than she. I lay out the problem and then ask for advice. ", This a great. But people tend to not like such things. Please let us know your name. Let me know what you think. I tend to think that sometimes when we become sensitive to these types of things there are more issues at play. (examples of why/how this will happen). We dont have a parking procedure. I resisted the urge to bang my head on her desk. Thats what I use it for too! Thats almost threatening. BUT really. This is such an interesting conversation. So, I figured, maybe Im explaining this badly. All Rights Reserved. I get those a lot. Just decide not to read too much into something. }; I occassionally use please advise if I think the reader may miss various points in my email that is actually a question. Example Sentences for Step 1 We would like you to know how much we have appreciated serving you this past year. But, I think more often than not thats not the case. Remember to use a valid email address. Can you give me an update on registration I worked at a hospital with thousands of employees and some erroneous email went out to the entire hospital listserv (I dont even remember the original email), and for DAYS we kept getting emails from people saying Please take me off this email chain! and Please stop hitting reply all! DAYS OF THIS. Hm, Im not sure Ive invented a sufficiently annoying scenario, but hopefully the point is clear. The one that drives me nuts is VR. Dont ask why, it makes no logical sense, it just makes my skin crawl. Thank you.. Thats what I use when emailing a group. I loved please advise when I had to ask clients what they wanted me to do next. If someone whos not approved to send emails to the list has a legitimate reason to send out an email to everyone, that person can contact the relevant admin, who will vet the request and then send it on to everyone if its deemed appropriate. What else was I supposed to say? Why am I having to ask you for the same thing multiple times??! It just hangs without a conclusion. } else if (w.attachEvent) { I think it takes work to infer anything other than whats written in a work email. s.src = "https://cdn.iubenda.com/iubenda.js"; I used to think it was extremely formal and cold, but now it has no affect on me because it is used so freakin often. Conjugacin Documents Diccionario Diccionario Colaborativo Gramtica Expressio Reverso Corporate. I admit its hard sometimes giving people the benefit of the doubt especially if they are bratty in person! It does havea slightly more formal feel to it than I prefer, but its not like the horrid and condescending gentle reminder.. 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